Thursday, December 29, 2011

Day 685: Greater than through love and support

So, the whole point of giving is to do so and not get attention for it. The act of doing or giving freely with no hope or expectation of acknowledgement or reward is the best of all acts. It is the purest form of our higher selves. That said, I want you all to start talking about giving..giving things..not your time, talent...but things. Giving a lot, frequently and as much as you can. Here's why:

So, I have been "hoarding". No, I am not going to make the show on A&E, but it was getting pretty bad. The hoarding did not come through some compulsive need to "have", but this notion that I was going to profit by what I had.  I am a pretty public person, so most of anyone reading this knows the schedule I keep for myself. Now, tell me, exactly when am I am going to to have that "clean house" sized yard sale, organize all this stuff and create this great opporunity to make all this money. Honestly, when? and even if I broke the HOA rules and had this, and spent all day doing it, in what way was I/we going to really profit by having dealers rummaging through things at 4 am before the yard sale shoppers hit at 6am and the poor schlubs who show up at 10am thinking they are still early?

Then, day before yesterday it also hit me that while I/we are not affluent by any means, exactly what impact is the income from a yard sale going to make or break our debt? Coupled, unfortunately, secondarily by the fact that I am a part and we are a part of some pretty major charities in this town and there is SO MUCH NEED all around us and here I am sitting on a pile of "stuff" that literally could make the difference in someone's very life if given to the right place to be used properly.

So, I LET GO! I let go of "stuff"..I packed up my car, headed over the Bargain Box of Wilmington and here is what I know. What is not given by the Bargain Box..literally handed to those in need from the Bargain Box is then sold and 100% of the money that comes in from the Bargain Box goes to local charities to help them. So, that act of lettting go multiplied in ways that I will never truly know...but I know, I truly know that it was the right thing to do. NOw, I don't give to orgs with high overhead or "foundations" that operate because they themselves are not non-profits and I want to make sure that what I am doing is going to go in the hands of those in needs..so I have done my research and I am not just going to give to Goodwill, but beyond that..this act of "letting go" was so freeing and little by little my life is lighter.

I say all this, cause I am betting EVERYONE has stuff that just needs to be "let go" of. My weight issue was not just my body, it was the "stuff" around me. I have a lifetime of having "things" ground me and create the illusion of security. Throuhgout my spiriual and now physical and mental growth, I see the shedding of "things" almost like pounds. They are inconsequential to what is really important. I/we began a process by scaling back and redoing the house last year, but then I just put the stuff we took out in the garage in the attic. That was not "letting go". and all year all I could think about was all that "stuff" and what is worse is that all year, someone, some people could have used all that and it jsut sat there. Not anymore...so, here's the deal. Get rid of it. Let it go and then tell somebody you did! Tell them where you do it so that they can invest in those places too! Habitat picks up, vintage values is awesome, Bargain Box is my fav....and there are others..but whatever you choose, it can make such a difference ! I am loving feeling even lighter today! loving, loving, loving it!

Thanks be!

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Friday, December 23, 2011

Day 678: Greater than through love and support

So much has gone on recently..I will begin in the moment..where I am right now.
I am just...so warm. Like a a blanket of surety and love is around me.

Events of late have made that blanket feel so good. Don't get me wrong, I have had moments of insecurity and I am getting my footing and finding my way...but among the moments of "finding" there have just been events of being "found". Sound to esoteric? It really isn't.

In changing jobs I have stayed pretty close to the course with my exercise and done pretty well with my eating. In fact, given the extent of things, I would say I have done pretty damned amazing! LOL! Holidays have definitely played a part in some dalliances that are not as good for me as usual. But I have no regrets...at all. I have run and run and run and felt such a release when I have felt stress. I have missed a couple of training sessions because I just was overwhelmed..not sick..just needed to sleep some more. Adam understood and understood my adjustments. But I am on the other side of that now and I was up at 5:30 and off to the gym this morning doing more than I ever have on my circuit training.

I have prayed and felt such a wonderful presence near and around me...this presence has come in events as well. My dad's illness has continued to progress and it has taken me out of myself and focused me at times in ways I did not imagine. He and I have shared time I never dreamed we would have. All of us have complicated relationships with our parents. We are not unique. But somehow, his life has continued long enough for there to be some amazing closure and discussions that I/we needed. What a gift. I just so hate seeing the suffering along the way. It is path that is hard to watch anyone follow. One I fear and try and stay focused on my living and not worry with and project to. This is about where he is and what he needs. Not me.

At the same time, I have had friends loose loved ones and held the hand of another who is passing, literally looking forward at the eminent moment. What privilege to be there, to say thank you, to listen. What a gift to be allowed to hug, or to embrace or just to be in someone's life at all. Nothing and I mean nothing taken for granted as minutes and second become counted.



And then, in all of this, I have been meeting for the first time, several people who have been following this very blog. Embracing Marty for the first time. Donna for the first time. Really feeling that connection in person and rejoicing in our LIFE! our sameness, our shared journeys, and our differences...all connected though through some sense of wanting to be better to be better and do better..not just for the sake of better. Got that? LOL!

And there have just been good things coming together. It is a time of good. I guess it always is...I just sometimes see it so much more clearly and right now I am so aware of it!  

Thanks be!

 
 
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Sunday, December 11, 2011

Day 667: Greater than through love and support

I think today is actually day six hundred and sixty six..but sorry, that just sort of creeps me out! LOL!
 I am wrapped warmly in my comforter on this crisp december morning and it is heaven!
The week has been amazing and fulfilling and this HUGE change in work is coming along.

But yesterday, as Michael and I were walking out of a restaurant from lunch, we were walking past some windows. In my mind, I remember thinking "don't look, you will just be disappointed by your stomach poking out"....but of course, I did look. I was shocked! There in the reflection of the windows was ME...but not me...or at least not the me that I see in my mind...it was a man turned to the side and there was no stomach poking out! It was hard to take in. I literally had to stop and go back and take a double take. I think we were in front of a Cato now that I am thinking about it. there is no telling what those women must have thought of me standing there holding my jacket up and turning to the side to see myself. But, it was incredible to "See"..really see for the first time. It felt so good, particularly right after lunch! :) What an incredibly difficult thing to "see" in my own mind....myself, that is. But what a nice moment. So grateful.

These last few weeks have been very emotional and amazing and rich and up and down and all around. What has been steady though has been my care for myself. Oh, I have missed training twice (once Adam, once me)..but I each time i missed, I ran that day. I have had some meals that were a little more rich or heavy, but I have done really well on snacking and i have NOT at any time had ANYTHING that would have entered my life inappropriately as it might have in the past with such a huge transition outside of Hersey's kisses and a couple of cookies. It has been amazing....this wellness thing is part of who and what i am and I get that because of it, because of taking care of me and taking care of the basics, I can more fully be involved and enjoy those things that make up these new experiences...these new paths that I am led to travel.

I have slept the sleep of the dead this week as this job is VERY engaging and I have felt a general tired that I have not felt before from work. But it is a deeply satisfying tired and that makes me want to go back for more!

THanks be and btw: just in case you missed it, here is that Christmas wish I posted that I enjoy doing each year! Hope it is something you will consider!

My Christmas Wish:

What I would love for Christmas is to see as many people as possible take one gift valued at $100.00...just one...and break it down into 10, 10 dollar increments and send those 10 dollars to at least 10 agencies.  In other words, to take one special gift and turn it into something that can make a difference to so many in such a substantial way.

Just think…I am sending this to about 2000 people. Imagine if even half did this.  That would be 1000 people giving 10$ each to 10 agencies of his or her choice. That would be $10,000.00 PER AGENCY! 

Even if it was $100 per agency, it would be another art program for a senior with Alzheimer's at the CAM, another meal for a homeless person, a care kit for a child who is taken into foster care, a rape kit, a bloodless testing kit for HIV/AIDS, or a chemistry book that a student would not be able to afford otherwise at UNCW or CFCC, and so on…

With some of these agencies having budgets of less than $200,000.00 and some of these scholarships being endowed at 10k, you get my drift!

So, I hope  you will use my list, and if not, that you will make your own.

Goodness came into this world with a message of peace, love, charity, and hope for all of us over 2000 years ago…I can think of no better present than to say “Happy Birthday”, “Merry Christmas” than by making peace, love, charity, and hope happen in the coming year right here in Southeastern, North Carolina with donations from us to these amazing resources for those in need!
Merry Christmas Friends!

(BTW: there are more than 10 listed here….oh well, if you got that extra 10 spot OR TWO…why not?)
1.)  Cameron Art Museum
http://www.cameronartmuseum.com/support.php

2.)  Coastal Horizons Incorporated (Rape Crisis Center, Youth Shelter, and Substance Abuse Treatment http://coastalhorizons.org
donate on line: https://secure.nuvox.net/www.coastalhorizons.org/monthly_sustainers/index.php
send checks to: Coastal Horizons Center, Inc.  Willie Stargell Office Park 615 Shipyard Boulevard, Wilmington, NC 28412.

3.) Wilmington Interfaith Hospitality Network (providing homeless families with emergency shelter and transitional shelter)
http://www.wihn.net/
donate online! http://www.wihn.net/httpdocs/giving.html
send checks to: WIHN
411 North 4th Street
Wilmington, NC 28401-4010

4.) Good Shepard Center (Shelter and Soup Kitchen)
http://www.goodshepherdwilmington.org/
give online: https://www.justgive.org/nonprofits/donate.jsp?ein=56-1566178
send checks to: 811 Martin Street  Wilmington, NC 28401

5.) First in Families (aiding disabled families and individuals)
http://www.arcnc.org/services/first_in_families/
send checks to: First In Families of Southeastern NC
5041 New Center Drive, Suite 109
Wilmington, NC 28403

6.) Domestic Violence Center
http://www.domesticviolence-wilm.org/
Give online: http://www.domesticviolence-wilm.org/donate.php
Send checks to: Domestic Violence Shelter and Services, Inc., 2901 Market Street, Wilmington, NC 28409

7.) Carousel Center (assisting victims of child abuse)
http://carouselcenter.org/
donate online: http://carouselcenter.org/donate-today.php
Send checks to: 1501 Dock Street Wilmington, NC 28401-4936 (910) 254-9898

8.) Cape Fear Community College Foundation (providing grants and scholarships)
http://cfcc.edu/blogs/foundation/
Send checks to: 411 N. Front St. Wilmington, NC 28401
Give online: http://cfcc.edu/blogs/foundation/?page_id=12
9.) Habitat for Humanity (making housing happen in the Cape Fear Region)
http://www.capefearhabitat.org/
Send checks to: 20 N. 4th Street, Suite 200 Wilmington, NC 28401

10.) Phoenix Ministries (working with the homeless and nearly homeless for job preparedness)
http://www.phoenixwork.org/
To contribute, please mail your check to Phoenix Employment Ministry, 20 N. Fourth Street, Wilmington, NC 28401, or call (910) 343-8469 to donate using your Visa or MasterCard

11.) Linc (Leading into new communities)(transitional services for the adjudicated released into the community)
http://www.lincnc.org/
Donate online: http://www.lincnc.org/
12.) UNCW Scholarships
http://uncw.edu
give online: https://tswww.uncw.edu/giving/
send checks to: 601 South College Road Wilmington, NC 28403 C/ O Marla Rice-Evans

13.) Coastal Carolina Aids Consortium
Send Checks to: COASTAL CAROLINA HIV CARE CONSORTIUM INC
805 N 4TH ST STE F
WILMINGTON, NC
28401-3472

14.) Elderhaus of New Hanover County (day care for our elderly)
http://www.elderhaus.com/
http://www.elderhaus.com/contributions.htm

15.) The American Heart Association
http://www.startcapefearnc.org/

16.) Airlie Gardens
http://airliegardens.org
send checks to: 300 Airlie Road
Wilmington, NC 28403-3706

17.) Kid's Making It:
http://kidsmakingit.org/
15 South Water Street
Wilmington, NC 28401
P  910-763-6001

18.) New Hanover Regional Medical Center Foundation
http://www.nhrmc.org/body.cfm?id=2329
give online: http://www.nhrmc.org/body.cfm?id=3647
send checks to: NHRMC Foundation
2259 South 17th St.
Wilmington, NC 28401.

19.) Child Advocacy and Parenting Place
http://www.cappcenter.org/
Send checks to: CAPP offices at
1401 S. 39th Street, Wilmington NC

20.) Lower Cape Fear Hospice and Life Care Center
http://hospiceandlifecarecenter.org
Send checks to: 1406 Physicians Drive
Wilmington, NC 28401-7335

21.) Family Neighborhoods Institute (amazing after school programming! Begun by Mrs. Mary Mosley)
http://familyandneighborhoodsinstitute.org
Send Checks to: 1102 Orange Street
Wilmington, NC 28401-4852
(910) 762-2884

22.) WHA/UNCW Community Campus  (comprehensive outreach to members of the public housing and surrounding neighborhoods in the form of computer training, reading programs, after school tutoring and dozens of other programs).
Checks can be sent to “WHA/UNCW Community Campus c/o WHA
1524 South 16th Street . Wilmington, North Carolina. 28401

23.) Access Wilmington (Building the Miracle field)
http://www.accesswilmington.org/
donate on line: http://www.accesswilmington.org/MAKEADONATION.aspx

24.) Boys and Girls Club
http://www.cbgcw.org/
Donate on line: https://www.cbgcw.org/donate.php

25.) Cape Fear Chapter- Salvation Army  
Send Checks to: 820 North 2nd Street, Wilmington - (910) 762-5948

26.) WARM-  Wilmington Area Rebuilding Ministry, Inc
http://www.warmnc.org/
Donate online: http://www.warmnc.org/Supporters/DonateNow/tabid/1119/Default.aspx

27.) WHAT: Wilmington Health Access for Teens
WHAT
4005 Oleander Drive
Wilmington, NC 28403
tele : 910.790.9949
fax : 910.790.9455
questions@whatswhat.org
http://www.whatswhat.org/

28.) Cape Fear Clinic (formerly the Tileston Clinic)
http://tilestonclinic.org/
1605 Doctors Circle
Wilmington, NC 28401

(910)-343-8736
FAX (910)-343-1293

29.) Cape Fear Health Net
http://www.capefearhealthnet.org/
910/798-3594

30.) DREAMS
http://dreamswilmington.org/
910.772.1501

31.) Elderhaus
http://www.elderhaus.com/
Elderhaus Inc.
1950 Amphitheater Drive
Wilmington, NC. 28401
Phone: (910) 251-0660
Fax: (910) 762-1732
Toll free: 888-343-8209

32.) Cape Fear Literacy Council
http://www.cfliteracy.org/
The Cape Fear Literacy Council
1012 South 17th Street
Wilmington, NC 28401


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Thursday, December 01, 2011

Day 656: Greater than through love and support

First day on the new job! Lord was it a nightmare: Caring people, special presents, beautiful space, awesome encounters, welcomes, and a general atmosphere of hope! LOL!

Honestly...it was a special day. I was not afraid, but was not sure what to expect...and full of excitement, but feeling like I "had-to-get-started-and-get-to-work-and-start-to-get-things-done-and-make-money- and-do-this-and-do-that-and...blah, blah, blah, blah, blah." LOL..not a little type A for Bo...no, not me at all. What I walked into was dear new friend with flowers in hand and a card of welcome, ready to make my desk and my office bright and warm...with hug in tow...that was the first encounter entering the building! It only got better from there. I looked and there in my chair was this sock monkey. It took my breath away. I had briefly shared at a lunch the story of my childhood, going in and out of UNC hospitals...literally spending the first 12 years of my life in and out of those hallowed halls all the time with severe asthma.

The amazing nursing staff gave me a sock monkey to ease my anxiety and help me get through my attacks. I chewed on that thing through some of the worst moments of my life. Somehere in my troubled teen years, that monkey disappeared. When my life turned around and I went back to school, my mother called me and asked me what I wanted for my birthday that year (I was 25). I told her that for some reason, all i could think of was that, as I said, "stupid sock monkey". I told her (and she remembered), what comfort that had brought me as a child. She looked and looked, as I later found out, and none where to be found, be she found that they had them at the Mast General Store in Vale Cruce, NC. She went all the way there and got me one. It was and is one of the greatest gifts I ever received.

Well, after I shared that story, it was heard by my new director and so today, sitting in my chair was a new sock monkey to make this transition one of comfort and love. Talk about a beautiful gift of welcome. One that I look forward to earning one day at a time from here on out!

the rest of the week has been equally wonderful. I shared a video on Tuesday of discovering the Cross city Trail right here on property and using it to work out. One of the big changes in my life is having working ours that will extend into the weekends and days that will go way into the evening. So, having a shower at work and a place to run and work out right next to work is very important.
I got out and run over to Halyburton on the trail, a section I had not run yet. It was exhilirating and wornderful! A whole new day!

That evening was the first "opening" that I attended and it was over a blink of an eye, but it was amazing...so many interesting poeple, such incredible art...yeah...I can do this. What I want though more than anything is to share it with EVERYONE..get EVERYONE in here and open this up to so many more people. It is truly amazing. I just don't get how I am so blessed...but I want to share that blessing. That is what this life is all about. I said that I am the "most dangerous man you can hire" and I am. I am not afraid in many ways. I want to do what feeds my soul and creates change in the world around me. This place can do that. I just need to see others come to it in that way. I am dangerous because being "director" is not that important...what is important...it is the change..it is what we do....I can do any job as long as there is change..as long as there is a difference...but here....here, there can be a place to give people an education, a respite from the world, an engagement with their soul, a facility to gather and celebrate in community, so much can be done..and I get to celebrate it..create sustenance for it..and work with these people to do that. It is an extension of what I have been doing for 13 years at UNCW and then some. Thanks be! :)

Each training morning this week I have been so "full" when I have gotten to Adam and the gym. It has been hard to explain my gratitude. How my own transformation has lead to my ability to create change..to follow the path I know God has for me. I am full today in my writing and I know it...but It is a very emotional week of transition and there is so much to be grateful for..to acknowledge. I was on a path less than 24 months ago to death..I was not able to climb stairs..now I run. I was feeding a misery and an emotional stress..now I am feeding a body and soul in motion. No matter what happens...what is in front of me, each day..each day at a time is a miracle..and I do not forget that.

Ok...I will stop. I just want to write down and try and put into words somehow what it feels like. but..maybe just feeling it and trying to live it is enough. thanks be! :)



Here's to new beginning's!



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